The other day I found myself venting to a client
Fortunately, he listened and he could relate
Quite a bit of what I had to say related to another client
So he understood
But it was also about my kids … and life
I find myself without an outlet at times
I’m just going through the routines, not always caring for “me”
And then recently I find myself growing impatient with my children
I don’t like the word hate, but I hate when I’m like that
Impatience …. sigh
I’m stuck in that rut
The weather blows
My client work is at times overwhelming
Sometimes I wish I had already found someone else to love, someone to love my kids, someone to share this with
But most of the times I’m completely happy the way things currently are
The house is a constant challenge to keep up
Work. Tenants. Bills. Groceries. Activities. Family.
Life is complex
I’m usually able to handle things well
I don’t let a whole lot bother me
But when I lose patience with the kids and when our poor attitudes affect each other, well something needs to change
I dislike facebook, most of the time
But today someone shared, perhaps just for me (but probably not), someone else’s solution to this same battle
How do we positively influence our behaviors, the behavior of our kids?
Yelling DOES NOT WORK
Punishment, sometimes, maybe
Empty threats … NO WAY
Positive reinforcement? … probably the best option of all
Our Reward Board works … when we use it.
But we’ve forgotten about it and it’s currently covered by a wall of paper grocery bags that need to be recycled
I don’t need that board now but I do need something
So this facebook post …
First, getting together as a family and talking about as many types of good deeds or positive actions we can think of
And listing them out
That gets us thinking …
But then it’s actions
What happens when we do one of those positive things or some other positive thing we didn’t list out?
Let’s not just write those things down on paper, let’s write them on the wall so we can see them every day.
So my job this week is to get some more chalk board paint and take advantage of an empty wall that we see every day.
Once that’s done
Then we need a way to track our progress
When we see or do something good, we record it
When we see or do something … well, not so good, we record it
So in this post they talked about using beans. Beans in a bowl that end up in a jar when something good happens. And are removed (in 2′s) from the jar when something not-so-good happens. Where removing 2 signifies that doing something not-so-good is well not-so-good
And then when that jar is full we find something fun to do to reward ourselves. So we list out what our reward could be too
So that’s my plan
So here I am venting in my own virtual world
Venting pretty much to myself or whoever might happen upon this post
I love my kids and I want them to be happy … parenting just ain’t so easy :-/