There are not very many times in life when you can truly be surprised. We decided for both our children that we wouldn’t find out if it was a boy or a girl. When we found out we were expecting our first, it we me who wanted to know if we were going to have a boy or a girl but Cari was adamant about not finding out. It’s wasn’t easy at all for Cari to keep any type of secret so this was certainly difficult for her. About half way through each of us switched our opinion; now she wanted to know.
Do you really need to find out? Sure, it might be nice to get the room painted a particular color and to buy the right color clothes and items for the bedroom, but does it really matter? You don’t need all that stuff right away anyways. Odds are the baby will sleep in your room for at least a couple months. And the family and friends will shower you with clothes. It’s hard to keep that secret. It really is. It’s so easy just to ask the doctor to tell you. But I really think it says something about those who keep the secret…it takes a lot of strength to keep a secret like this for 9 months.
We did the same for our 2nd and it was equally as difficult but completely worth the wait. It took a lot of will power but as we sat there in the delivery room filled with emotions, we found ourselves extremely anxious for the answer. Of all the experiences we had together, I will remember these forever.